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Give & Take

“If you want to be a doormat you have to lay yourself down first.”

- Oscar Wilde -
Key Themes
  • Prioritising Our Needs
  • People-Pleasing
  • The Doormat Effect
  • Art Of Saying "No"
  • "Givers" & "Takers"
  • "Obliger" Tendencies
Key Thinkers
  • Greg McKeown
  • Gretchen Rubin
  • Tim Ferriss
  • Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Adam Grant
  • Nicole LePera
Getting Our Priorities Straight

By Greg McKeown
More Here ►

Being Aware Of “Obliger" Tendencies
 
By Gretchen Rubin
More Here ►
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How To Get Better At Saying "No"

By Tim Ferriss
More Here ►

Why We Need To Say "No"(Before Our Body Does It For Us)

By Gabor Maté
More Here ►

Finding Peace By Putting Our Needs First

By Nedra Glover Tawwab

Striking the Right Balance Of Giving & Taking

By Adam Grant
More Here ►

Why We Need To Set Clear Boundaries (& How To Do It)

By Nicole LePera
More Here ►

How To Set Boundaries At Work

By HBR & CNBC Make It


Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most.

- Adam Grant


People-Pleasing vs Being “Selfish”

By The School Of Life

EFT: Tapping On People-Pleasing

By Brad Yates

TED Talks & Lectures

By Caroline McGraw & Sarri Gilman

Tips & Webisodes

By Amy Morin, Ryan Holiday, Marie Forleo & Einzelgänger

Clips & Interviews

By Kevin Hart, Brené Brown & Chris Lee

Insight


Business Insider
How To Build Healthy Boundaries

Full Article

HBR
Beat Generosity Burnout

Full Article

The Telegraph
Don't keep saying yes: Why you need to stop being A People-Pleaser

Full Article

ABC News
How To Give Without Burning Out

Full Article

Psych Central
Keeping Good Boundaries & Getting Your Needs Met

Full Article

business Insider
​The Difference Between Being A Successful Giver & A Total Doormat

Full Article

Fast Company
How to stop being a people pleaser

Full Article

Forbes
Staying Connected With Boundaries

Full Article

Chopra.com
Setting Boundaries: How to Put Your Needs First

Full Article

Forbes
If You Have Trouble Saying 'No,' Then Say This Instead

Full Article

Oprah
3 Ways To Set Boundaries, According To Brené Brown

Full Article

Thought Catalog
This Is How Setting Boundaries Makes Us Better, Not Weaker

Full Article

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Gretchen Rubin

Obligers – Are You an Elizabeth?

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Brené Brown
Why Setting Boundaries Is a Key Part of Being Vulnerable

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Laurie Santos
Set Boundaries & Give Yourself Bandwidth

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Audio Books

The Four Tendencies
Taken from The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin.
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Visualise Your Boundary
Taken from Boundaries, by Jennie Miller & Victoria Lambert.
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Book Extracts

Good Returns
: The Dangers & Rewards of Giving More Than You Get

Taken from Give And Take, by Adam Grant.
Read Extract
Understanding The Importance Of Boundaries
Taken from Set Boundaries, Find Peace, by Nedra Glover Tawwab.
Read Extract
What Are Boundaries?
Taken from Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend.
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How Much Of A People Pleaser Are You?
Taken from The Book Of No, by Susan Newman, PhD.
Read Extract
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      • If Life Gives You Lemons
      • "If Only..."
      • Let Go, Forgive
      • Live (& Let Die)
      • Paradise Lost
      • Radical Acceptance
      • Resilience
      • Stoic
      • Tales Of Yesterday
  • KEY THINKERS
    • A - F
      • David Allen
      • Dan Ariely
      • Brené Brown
      • Susan Cain
      • Joseph Campbell
      • Julia Cameron
      • James Clear
      • Amy Cuddy
      • Susan David
      • Richard J. Davidson
      • Angela Duckworth
      • Charles Duhigg
      • Carol Dweck
      • David Eagleman
      • Nir Eyal
      • Tim Ferriss
      • Marie Forleo
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      • Malcolm Gladwell
      • Seth Godin
      • Daniel Goleman
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      • Heidi Grant
      • Robert Greene
      • Rick Hanson
      • Benjamin Hardy
      • Johann Hari
      • Ryan Holiday
      • Andrew Huberman
      • Steven Johnson
      • Carl Jung
    • K - P
      • Scott Barry Kaufman
      • Dacher Keltner
      • Steven Kotler
      • Ellen Langer
      • Nicole LePera
      • Mark Manson
      • Gabor Maté
      • Kelly McGonigal
      • Greg McKeown
      • Kristin Neff
      • Cal Newport
      • Friedrich Nietzsche
      • Gabriele Oettingen
      • Dan Pink
      • Steven Pressfield
      • Jordan Peterson
    • Q - Z
      • Mel Robbins
      • Tony Robbins
      • Ken Robinson
      • Gretchen Rubin
      • Laurie Santos
      • Tina Seelig
      • Martin Seligman
      • Simon Sinek
      • Teal Swan
      • Eckhart Tolle
      • Matthew Walker
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      • Philip Zimbardo
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